Abbas Tyrewala’s film Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na has portrayed today’s parents. Parents, who are more open-minded about their children going to parties, dating, consuming alcohol and the like. What’s more, kids now add parents as friends on their networking sites.

Most parents agree that ‘generation gap’ is disappearing and parents are turning pals more than ever before. The friendship factor strengthens the bond even as it satisfies the emotional needs. In fact, one can see increasing instances of parents, especially mothers, who want to be friends with their children. “I have always let my daughter make her own decisions and given her the confidence that I would be there for her in her good times and bad. A child is more honest with his or her parent if they are more like friends,” says Swaroop Rani Mediah, a parent. 

Puneet Jalan, a father of three, says that things were a lot different with his parents. “There were a lot of restrictions, when we had to talk to our parents. We were a little open with our mother but approaching our father was very difficult. I’m so glad when my children come to me and talk to me about their social life,” says Puneet. He also adds that he understands his children’s needs of having a social life or partying with friends. “I would rather have my daughter’s friends come over and have a house party than have them go out. Not only is it safer but they wouldn't have to worry about the 11.30 pm deadline,” laughs Swaroop.   

With technology opening up many lines of communication, parents and children are finding it easier to solve their differences, “Text messages and e-mail messages can help smoothen things, especially after a fight,” says Prerna, a student. “I can remember a few times when we've had tiffs and have sent apology letters over e-mail, it’s so much more easier to put my feelings into words,” she adds.

Soumya, who has a son and a daughter, says that there are a few things that parents should keep a hold on, “Certain things like discipline, education and good manners cannot be compromised. Too much of freedom can spoil the children and they may end up not respecting their parents. Parents can be friends but they should also let the child know his or her limits,” she adds.

While the question, whether it’s right to give complete freedom to children or whether this is the right style of parenting, calls for debate, one thing is for sure that the new role is definitely making its way into many households.